This year, as we celebrate International Women’s Day, I wonder how far we have really come? After reading in the Guardian newspaper, how European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen, was barely acknowledged by the Ugandan foreign minister, General Jeje Odongo, I see little change to the age-old patriarchal attitude…

Patriarchy teaches daughters to blame their mother for their low self-esteem, their anxiety and depression, their disordered eating, their anxious attachment, and their “mother wound”. As Paula Caplan explains in “The new don’t blame mother”, mother blaming is the norm, the dominant language that we learn to speak and believe…

My mother could not celebrate me when I graduated with a Bachelor of Education from the University of Canterbury in Christchurch, New Zealand. I had invited her to the graduation ceremony at the Christchurch Town Hall, and I know that she attended because she sat with my partner during the…

The term ‘mother wound’ has become a popular catch-all description of the disempowering messages daughters inherit from their mother and the pain daughters feel when their mother cannot emotionally connect. Articles and videos on how to heal your ‘mother wound’ are all over the internet, including goop.com …

Amongst the awfulness of 2020, I created something amazing! …

To celebrate International Women’s Day, Mother-Daughter Coaching International (MDCI) and Women’s Federation for World Peace (WFWP UK) joined forces and organized a free online conference on “Mothers and Daughters Around the World”. The conference was moderated by Rosjke Hasseldine, founder of MDCI, and Mitty Tohma, president of WFWP UK; Yingli…

The Women’s Federation for World Peace facilitated an online conference in November 2020 on “The Golden Brother”, which I spoke at. This conference was overbooked, which didn’t surprise me. …

We all know that conflict between a husband and wife affects the entire family, and that children of all ages are deeply impacted when their parents fight. What isn’t widely known is how parental conflict can cause conflict between a mother and daughter. …

Many of the men that are largely considered the ‘fathers’ of psychotherapy are household names. Names like Freud, Jung, Rogers, for example, are known by most people. Less well known are the names of the ‘mothers’ of psychotherapy like Gilligan, Miller, Klein, Chodorow, Satir, to name a few. History has…